Many Christian men struggle with resisting sexual temptations at work and in their social lives, but are often surprised when they encounter similar temptations at church. This article endeavours to explain why a growing number of Christian men are unhappy about having their minds invaded - visually and mentally raped - by provocatively dressed Christian women at church. Some women might not even be aware of the struggle they are causing their brothers in the faith - but that doesn't make the experience any less difficult. When a man is exposed to a sexually stimulating sight in his church, can he simply avoid taking responsibility for his thoughts, consoling himself with the fact that he never actively requested that he be exposed to such a visually stimulating sight? Can a Christian woman avoid taking responsibility for her part in causing a man to experience sexually impure thoughts? These questions and more are discussed in "Look, but don't Touch?"
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Look, But Don’t Touch?
Table of Contents
Preface 2 The Young-and-Manipulated 4 Who are Strange Women? 4 No Shame, No Blame 7 Peek-a-Boo! 7 Peek a Boo – I See You! 8 Who are Dogs and Adulterers? 10 Do “Christian” Ladies have a Moral Responsibility to Others? 11 Visual Rape 12 I Didn't Come to Buy – I'm Just Looking 12 Thou Shalt Not Steal – Thou Shalt Not Covet 13 Natural Immunity? 14 Turn Away 14 The Wife of Your Youth 15 Treachery? 15 Hypersexualisation 17 Signs of a Hypersexualised Man 17 Signs of a Hypersexualised Woman 19 Pure in Heart 20 It's All in the Mind 20 Harlotry and Whoremongering 21 Repentance 23 Victory 23 On Guard 24 Beware Especially of the Narcissist 25 Freedom From Compulsion 25 Damage Control 26 Conclusion 26 Recovery Assistance 28
Look, But Don’t Touch? Preface Nowadays there is again a strong push that the community should accept any behaviour as long as it “doesn't hurt anyone else." This concept seems fair and tolerant, however it is very different when the supposedly harmless behaviour is in fact extremely dangerous?
One such behaviour is rapidly making inroads into the modern day churches. While some people are concerned with the “lowering of standards” within the churches, many do not realise the danger in condoning this position when it applies to morality.
Many young women are choosing to wear sexually-powerful (seductive) clothing to church meetings. This behaviour is a form of exhibitionism. Many young men and some not so young men have become voyeurs; they look upon the young women and cherish private, sexual thoughts regarding them.
Is voyeurism in the churches harmless?
Is exhibitionism in the churches harmless?
What does the One True God say about voyeurism and exhibitionism? This paper examines these issues.
The Young-and-Manipulated It is expected that women who don't understand God's unselfish love, would also be unaware of the dangers for them in wearing revealing clothing (a form of exhibitionism), But how could God's professed women be comfortable wearing the same sexually charged attire to church services, youth revivals and church social functions?
Recently, at a church-related function, we saw "Christian" ladies wearing very form-fitting clothes which clung so tightly to their slinky bodies. When several ladies bent over in front of me, it became obvious, that they were wearing G-string panties. I had no desire to know what type of underwear that anyone was wearing, but through no fault of my own, I was forcefully informed of this information which was broadcast through tightly-fitting dresses. A young, single gentleman at our table confessed that he couldn't look anywhere safely because of the unwanted 'distractions.' The tiny straps that reached timidly over their exposed shoulders covered only a minimum of feminine flesh, but there was more to see than just bare shoulders. So many assisted cleavages were bursting out of those fragile dresses, that I heard another guest comment - "Why don't they just pull their breasts right out of their dresses and be done with it?" That is a shocking statement, so we thought it was worthy of investigation.
Why do modern women appear driven to display their bodies sexually to strangers? One hundred years ago the typical young woman would be horrified and insulted to be competition for a prostitute. What has changed? (Visit www.MindRewind.vip for answers).
Proverbs 5:3-5 "The lips of a strange woman drop as an honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil: but her end is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword. Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell.”
Proverbs 7:9-27 In the twilight, in the evening, in the black and dark night: 10 And, behold, there met him a woman with the attire of an harlot, and subtle of heart. 11 (She is loud and stubborn; her feet abide not in her house: 12 Now is she without, now in the streets, and lieth in wait at every corner.) 13 So she caught him, and kissed him, and with an impudent face said unto him, 14 I have peace offerings with me; this day have I paid my vows. 15 Therefore came I forth to meet thee, diligently to seek thy face, and I have found thee. 16 I have decked my bed with coverings of tapestry, with carved works, with fine linen of Egypt. 17 I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon. 18 Come, let us take our fill of love until the morning: let us solace ourselves with loves. 19 For the goodman is not at home, he is gone a long journey: 20 He hath taken a bag of money with him, and will come home at the day appointed. 21 With her much fair speech she caused him to yield, with the flattering of her lips sheforcedhim. 22 He goeth after her straightway, as an ox goeth to the slaughter, or as a fool to the correction of the stocks; 23 Till a dart strike through his liver; as a bird hasteth to the snare, and knoweth not that it is for his life. 24 Hearken unto me now therefore, O ye children, and attend to the words of my mouth. 25 Let not thine heart decline to her ways, go not astray in her paths. 26 For she hath cast down many wounded: yea, many strong men have been slain by her. 27 Her house is the way to hell, going down to the chambers of death.”
It is so interesting to read that Solomon believed that a woman could 'force' a man to commit adultery with her and that the man was defenseless against her seductive ways. Solomon's history proved that though he was wise in other areas, he was not wise in the management of his mind. A man who is guarded will stand like Joseph stood against Potipher's wife - solidly against immorality. There is no woman alive who can entice a man to commit adultery in body or in the mind with her, unless he is willing. Even if he is raped, he cannot be forced to participate in the sexual abuse in his mind, exactly in the same way that a raped woman is not party to her sexual abuse. The mind has to agree to cherish the sexual invitation before the tentacles of immorality secure the body.
However, according to Solomon's description, a “strange woman” takes the following ordered steps:
not interested in home-life/housewife duties;
is rebellious (translated stubborn);
premeditates participating in sexual sin;
makes a plan to participate in sexual sin;
is subtle (conceals her plan);
knows her unlawful sexual desires are sinful,
counts on securing divine forgiveness after the adultery (she brought her “peace offerings' in a penance-type mentality);
spent lots of money buying items to make herself appear sexually irresistible;(myrrh)
had prepared in advance to cause a man to sin sexually (prepared her bed and body);
waits until her husband is gone;
dresses like a harlot; (she is an exhibitionist – loves people to admire her for her body)
enacts her illicit plan;
propositions the man in a sexual ambush (lies in wait);
gives verbal and non-verbal invitations to sin sexually;
reassures him that God won't condemn them (she brought her peace-offerings);
persistently talks to persuade the man (fair speech, literally “abundant words”);
promises him 'great sex' all night;(take our fill of love -literally, boiling passion)
uses flattery (literally “smooth”);
reassures him that it is “safe” (her rich husband is away on a long journey)
uses manipulation - the “force” of flattery;
uses physical persuasions to cause a man to sin sexually (kissed and grabbed him);
casts down many men (she is promiscuous);
lies; she promises a man that he is special, when in fact, she has sexually partnered many men;
causes pain and death to many men because they fail to resist her immoral advances.
Thesame traits could be applied also to a “strange man” as many women have also fallenprey to a “charming man” who “said he loved me and would marry me.”But this article isconcernedwiththeissueof “strangewomen.”
“Strange women” in modern churches also flash their bodies at one and all, and causespiritual discomfort to other men and women- and thus to marriages.Some pretend thatGod condones unlawful sexual behaviour and displays, eventually suggesting, as they falldeeperintosexual sin,that“it'sokay(tohaveunmarriedsex)ifyoulovesomeone.”
The “strange woman” syndrome begins in the mind with mental attitudes and is thenevidenced by suggestive clothing. At the overwhelming sight of powerful feminine sexualdisplays, many men (even those married men who have physical sexual activity on aregular basis) have real trouble staying faithful to their wives. Why is this so? Because they are not having real sex. The interaction is not bringing sexual satisfaction beyond a physical relief/release. It is the chemical bonding from the emotional and physical connection during sex that makes it truly satisfying. Disconnected, emotionally detached sexual interaction can never achieve true satisfaction and indeed only causes the painful condition of hypersexualisation.
Some of the “strange women” are very beautiful and as Solomon notes, they take greatpains to make sure they are indeed, sexually very attractive. According to the Biblical plan however, such displays of sexual beauty shouldbekeptprivateandsacredandholy, between a husband and his wife - not put out on display to tempt every man's flesh torespond against the law of God.Strange women who choose to display their femininefleshcausemany ahusbandtostruggleinorder not tosinwiththem,inhismind.
When “strange women” parade their fleshly wares in public, many wives also are forced tosuffer a huge personal injury.A wife can experience feeling rejected and devalued by herhusband.She might remember that her husband vowed - he promised - to “keep himselfonly unto” her forever, and yet the wife notices that his eyes and mind wander over forbidden pleasuresoffered“freely”tohiseyes,bythese“strangewomen.”
When exposed to a “strange woman's” sexual displays, can a man, justifyhis lustfullongings by (sometimes)gettinghis wife's permission to "look, but don'ttouch?”
Matthew15:18-20 “But those things which proceed out of the mouth come forth from the heart; and they defile the man. 19 For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries,fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies: .20 These are the things which defile aman...”
Romans8:6-9 “For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace.7Because the carnal mind is enmity against God: for it is not subject to the law of God,neither indeed can be.8 So then they that are in the flesh cannot please God. 9Butye are not in the flesh, but in the Spirit, if so be that the Spirit of God dwell in you. Now ifanymanhavenottheSpirit of Christ,heisnoneofhis.”
There is a price attached to this “free” unlawful sexual pleasure of entertaining sin in theimagination.Apart from the loss of his eternal salvation, it costs the husband dearly onearth.He loses the trust and respect of his wife.The wife pays internally with deep pain,anger, upset and depression.Perhaps she decides to act in revenge, donning revealingclothes herself to gain from other men, (reassurance of her attractiveness and desirability), that which her own husband has denied her and given to other women.The pleasure for thehusband is short-lived, while he has to consider if his sexual indulgence was worth thedamage done to his wife and their relationship.The marriage suffers and this inevitablyhurtsanychildrenalso.
Isaiah1:21 "Howisthefaithfulcity becomeanharlot!"
The Bible is not complimentary to immodestly dressed women.In fact, Moses equated awoman whoactedlikeawhoreasactuallybeingawhore.
Leviticus21:7 “They shall not take a wife that is a whore (#2181 ), or profane; neither shall they take awoman put awayfrom herhusband: forheisholyuntohisGod.”
Who are Strange Women? While we rightly cringe at name-calling or shaming anyone, in the Bible (Proverbs 5:3-5), Solomon refers to the shameful sexualised behaviours committed by and against women. Strange women are said to be those who act as whores, harlots and prostitutes! Porn performers - including those who are parading their bodies around in every day society in provocative clothing, would be labelled as harlots by Solomon's description also.
Leviticus19:29 “Do not prostitute thy daughter, to cause her to be a whore; lest the land fall to whoredom,andthelandbecomefull of wickedness.”
We know that the 'strange' women referred to by Solomon are quite likely emotionally injured women and in today's society we still have injured women. As followers of Jesus, we don't blame any person - male or female - for becoming hypersexualised in our pornified society, but we try to encourage them that there is a superbly joyful way out of the compulsion and addiction.
Knowing that whores, harlots and prostitutes parade their bodies (exhibitionism) for a pay-off,wecanexaminehow this textbecomes veryrelevantinthemodernchurch.
A harlot (scantily dressed female) dresses seductively to enhance her chances of sexually arousing a man and bydoing so, she tempts him to covet her body.If he accepts her invitation to sin, she stealsthe sexual attentions of that man from his (present or future) wife.The man also is a partyto the theft, for he consents to give what belongs to his wife, (his body) to another woman.
1Corinthians 7:3,4 “Let the husband renderunto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife untothe husband. 4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewisealsothehusbandhathnot powerofhisownbody,but thewife.”
So a harlot or prostitute (emotionally injured woman) uses her God-given body to attract a morally weak, (emotionally wounded) man.She laysa trap for him and then steals his sexual attention away from his wife.The harlot receives her wages in money or in Bible times she was paid with a young goat or otherpayment. Today, in the churches, young women don't receive goats or money directly, so what is the wage that they eagerly seek?
But before we look at wages, is it possible that there are harlots in the churches today?
1John2:16 “Forallthatisintheworld,thelustoftheflesh,andthelustoftheeyes,andtheprideoflife,isnot of theFather, but isoftheworld.”
A church-woman who dresses enticingly and seductively and parades her “wares” in publicis thinking and acting AS a harlot, whether she receives a monetary payment or not for herservices.She has the same agenda as the worldly harlot – to receive male attention by sexually arousing him. However, instead of receiving money for their “services” the harlots in thechurches receive a more subtle payout.They receive admiring looks, compliments andspecial male attention that causes them to feel valued.They are treated in positive waysthatmenareBiblically supposedtoreservefortheirwives.
According to Paul, the husband's body and his sexual desires and attention are his wife'sexclusive property (1 Corinthians 7: 2-5).The husband's sexual attentions lawfully belongtononeotherthanhiswife.
ThemarriagevowremindsChristiansofJesus'words: Matthew19:5 “And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife:and they twain shall be one flesh? 6Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh.WhatthereforeGodhathjoinedtogether,letnot manput asunder.”
To put asunder means to break apart or to put into separate pieces.If a strange womaninterferes with the sexual relationship of a marriage, she is separating that relationship intopieces – trying to reverse what God has already joined and blessed.It is a very seriousoffense to steal the sexual attention of a man away from his wife, for this action is themanner ofaharlot. ItisaveryseriousoffensetoACTinthewaysthataharlotbehaves.
What prompts women who claim to be followers of God, to dress like prostitutes? Dressing to encourage unlawful sexual attention, is prostitution. Giving sexual attention to another, other than a marriage partner, is also participating in prostitution. Serious emotional injuries cause females to engage in risky or premiscious sexual activities. Men mistake the sexual activity for having a 'love of sex' when it is most often caused by insecurities, fear of abandonment, not being good enough, feeling worthless so the pressing need to find external sources to provide reassurance of her worth. Mostly we find injured women are carrying painful attachment injuries from childhood. In a pornified society, the opportunities for women to be reassured that they are 'worth enough' are extremely limited. It doesn't matter what other achievements a woman seems to make, if she doesn't have glamour and the ability to arouse a man sexually when he looks at her, she is not going to receive very much positive feedback. Women learn very early what must be done to receive some positive comments from the most powerful members of society. It is very sad, but unmet needs as a small child drive insecure women to discard their own dignity in an effort to gain some kind words from men who likely don't value them and won't care for them.
Isaiah3:16-25 16And Jehovah says, Because the daughters of Zion are proud, and walk with stretched out necks and wanton eyes, walking and mincing as they go, and make a tinkling with their feet; 17So Jehovah will make the crown of the daughter of Zion scabby; and Jehovah willlay their secret parts(Strong's Hebrew concordance #6596pothpudenda -female genitals) bare. 18In that day the Lord will take away the beauty of the ankle bracelets, and the headbands, and the crescents, 19the pendants, and the bracelets, and the veils; 20the headdresses, and the leg ornaments, and the sashes, and the houses of the soul, and the amulets; 21the rings and nose jewels; 22the festal apparel and the outer garments; and the mantles, and the purses; 23the mirrors and the fine linen; and the turbans and the veils. 24And it shall be, instead of a smell of perfume, there shall be anodor of decay. And instead of a sash, a rope. And instead of well set hair, baldness.And instead of a rich robe, a girding of sackcloth; burning instead of beauty. 25Your men shall fall by the sword, and your mighty in the war.
1Testimonies fortheChurchp270 “The prophecyofIsaiah3 was presentedbefore me as applying to these last days, andthe reproofs are given to the daughters of Zion who have thought only of appearance anddisplay. Read verse 25: "Thy men shall fall by the sword, and thy mighty in the war." I was shown that this scriture will be strictly fulfilled. Young men and women professing to be Christians, yet havingnoChristianexperience,andhavingbornenoburdensandfeltno individual responsibility, are to be proved. They will be brought low in the dust and willlong for an experience in the things of God, which they have failed toobtain.”
If a woman thinks like a harlot, desires and cherishesunlawful male sexual attention)and if she acts like a harlot (wears revealing, tempting, suggestive clothing so she canattract unlawful male sexual attention), then according to both Moses and Jesus, she is already,infact,aharlot because she is performing actions from the same motivating principle - to sexually manipulate others.
It is awful that throughout history, sexually injured ladies are called vile and disrespecful names. That is not the purpose of this study. We have greatest empathy for those who have been caught up in the hypersexualised world of sexual abuse, addiction, despair and suffering. We need to see only that the Bible writers tried to identify and warn about the horrors caused by sexual abuse. Today, sexual abuse is disguised as being 'normal,' harmless, exciting and an entitlement.
Dogs and Adulterers The Bible language for male sexual immorality is not complimentary, nor does it flatterthosewhoparticipateinsexual sin.
Revelation22:14,15 “Blessed are they that do his commandments, that they may have right to the tree of life, and may enter in through the gates into the city. 15 For without are dogs (#2965 a manof impure mind), and sorcerers, and whoremongers ( #04205: a man who prostituteshis body to another's lust for hire; 2) a male prostitute 3) a man who indulges inunlawful sexual intercourse, a fornicator and murderers, and idolaters, and whosoever loveth and maketh a lie." (Definitions from Thayer's Greek Lexicon)
John, uses harsh language to try to describe the horror of sexual abuse. The Creator told us that our bodies are the temple of the Holy Spirit and our bodies are not our own (1 Cor 6:19).
It is understandable that the Creator might be very grieved when He sees a man sexually abusing a woman and vice versa. That human body has been claimed as being His temple!
The strong language “Dogs and Adulterers” identifies those who sexually abuse women as being male prostitutes, fornicators and unlawful sex indulgers (sexual abusers). In fact, modern women will sexually abuse other women and likewise men will also sexually abuse other men. God abhors the sexual abuse committed against any of His creation. Selfishness hurts everyone involved.
If a man chooses to cherish the unlawful sexual desire for a woman other that his wife,then the husband is also stealing from another man. The sin occurs, not when he is atfirstconfrontedwiththesexuallystimulatingsightofanear-nakedwomanorheremphasised femininely form.Sin only occurs if and when he consents to cherish thosethoughts.His decision to cherish and accept those initial thoughts lead him to engage inforbidden pleasures provided by the sight of “strange” woman's body.By engaging inlustful fantasies, the unfaithful husband is stealing from his wife, taking from her and giving to anotherwoman, hissexual attention.
Butthemarriagevowsincludethepromiseoffidelity– complete and exclusive sexual loyalty toamarriagepartner.
1Corinthians7:2-5 “Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every womanhave her own husband. 3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 4 The wife hath notpowerofherownbody,butthehusband:andlikewisealsothehusbandhathnotpowerofhis ownbody,butthewife. 5Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may giveyourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.”
Galatians6:7,8 “Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he alsoreap.8For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he thatsowethtotheSpiritshall of the Spirit reap life everlasting."
Do“Christian”LadieshaveaMoralResponsibilitytoOthers? Genesis 4:9 “And the LORD said unto Cain, Where is Abel thy brother? And he said, I know not: Am I my brother's keeper?“
Cain had just caused his brother's physical death. When questioned by God over his violence, Cain responded selfishly, without the slightest indication of remorse. Cain basically said, “I couldn't care less about Abel.”
Genesis 4:10 “And he said, What hast thou done? the voice of thy brother's blood crieth unto me from the ground. “
Cain's predicated response today might well have been the incredibly selfish response of, “Ifyoudon't likewhatyousaw, don'tlookat it!”
In a similar way, if a non-smoker complains about polluted air caused by a smoker’s burning cigarette, the smoker might reply, “If you don’t like to breathe my cigarette smoke, don’t breathe!”
Why is it any different if a woman intentionally pollutes the visual atmosphere by dressing in a sexually provocative fashion? Shouldn’t a man have rights to participate in society in a clean, visual atmosphere? Or must he continue to hear that tired reply, “If you don’t like seeing my (exposed) body, then don’t look!”?
It is a human rights issue. It is not feasible and undignified to require that a man (and young boys) to walk around with eyes closed in society, but that is what would be required if he was determined to avoid being exposed to porn each and every day.
Porn is defined as being an image designed to evoke a sexual response. In reality, porn is walking, sitting, swimming, talking, singing, existing on all levels, in every environment, all around him, determined to secure his mind’s attention.
Smokers need to stop polluting the air that others need to breathe. Women need to stop polluting the visual atmosphere that others need to see.
A truly Christian man endeavours to avoid seeing unlawfully sexually arousing sights, but this option is not given to him by harlot-women who purposely dress to evoke these normal bodily reactions in men. Perhaps the harlot-women would respond to with, '“If you don't like what you see, don't look at it.” Perhaps they don't know that he can't erase the sexual image that has been forced into his brain. The image has instantly begun doing its work on his most susceptible sexual organ – his mind. Is this selfish attitude of harlot-women fair? Many women appear determined to collect their “wages” and a man expressing difficulty over inappropriate sexual reactions is not sufficiently bothersome in the harlot-women's estimation.
VisualRape Often a woman will object loudly if a “strange” man focuses his gaze on her breasts, albeit through her clothing. Women who have experienced such a focused staring at the shape of their breasts, claim that they feel “visually raped” and rightly so.
However, there is another situation that would also appear to be visual rape.
It is not questioned that a woman has the “right” to dress herself for comfort and for attractive presentation. However if she chooses to dress in a way that is damaging toward men (and their wives), doesn't this present a double standard? A man is condemned for looking uninvited at a woman's covered breasts, but a woman is not condemned for forcing a man to look at her exposed body parts. It is accepted that some men enjoy the sin of focusing on a strange woman's body parts, but this paper is concerned with the effect of unlawful (unmarried) sexual behaviour in the church – those who profess to keep the commandments of God.
Consider the principle involved.
Is it acceptable to force someone to view a sexual sight, which, if they had been offered a choice, they would have declined to view? Is it fair to force a man to be exposed to something that will cause in him, an involuntary and undesired mental, emotional, and perhaps physical and spiritual reaction? Isn't this also a form of visual rape - with the harlot-woman as the perpetrator and man as the innocent victim? Shouldn't such a woman be held accountable for the damage she causes to the man and to his marriage relationship? And for the damage she causes to his spiritual relationship?
IDidn'tCometoBuy–I'mJustLooking However, it is shamefully evident that many “Christian” men think it's okay to look and lust privately after women in the churches i.e. without their wife's knowledge. Perhaps some suppose that private lusting is a passive sin and therefore it must be less “evil” than actively carrying out the thoughts of the mind. The husband who participates in solo-adultery comforts himself by thinking, "No one is getting hurt if it's done in secret." The husband who participates in partnered-adultery, comforts and justifies his behaviour by thinking, "No one was hurt. The woman consented and my wife will never know about it."
Jesus knows where the thoughts of the unrenewed human heart lead. It is certain self- destruction. But some professed Christian men and women, can't see the truth - that sin leads to death.
James 1:15 “Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.”
Remember, according to Jesus, the sin of adultery (and all other sins) takes place in themind.
Matthew 5:28 “But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.“
Sadly, many men confess this weakness for sexual sights openly, while other morally- challenged men reason quite unbiblically:
I'm not hurting anyone else; and
nobody knows that I'm enjoying this lust, so it's only my own business .
These men are morally wounded and prisoners of their own lust and very deceived because their selfishness in secret will injure both them and their partners even if the wife does not discover it. Porn addiction changes the mind, unbalances the neurotransmitters so that the personality changes. The man’s ability to work and to interact socially and intimately is severely effected as is the ability to sexually perform and sexually satisfy his wife. Erections become impossible to achieve with his wife as his mind has anchored sexual arousal with digitalised images so that when he is not watching porn during sexual arousal, his erections can’t be maintained. The man then wrongly assumes that his wife is not sexy enough for him anymore, because he can still ‘perform’ when he’s viewing the naked ladies in his solo performances in the bathroom. In reality, the husband would find it difficult to perform sexually with ANY woman ‘in the flesh’ until he went through the withdrawal process from watching and thinking about porn and allowed his mind to heal from the abuse inflicted on it.
ThouShaltNotSteal–ThouShaltNotCovet In the act of mental fornication, both stealing and coveting are committed by both men andwomen.
“Strange women” most often begin with stealing a husband's sexual attentionfromhiswife. Fornicating men most often begin with coveting an unlawful sexual experience that is advertised by the “strange” women's scanty attire.
Godsaysthatfornicationandsexualimmorality is idolatry.
Harlotry is an effort to receive worship of oneself.A harlot desires masculine adoration tobe given to herself, through her body.But God's people are to give their adoration to Godalone.It isnowonderthattheBiblecallsfornication,“idolatory.”
1Thessalonians4:3-8 “Forthisisthewill ofGod, even yoursanctification, thatyeshould abstainfromfornication: 4That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification andhonour; 5Not in the lust of concupiscence (unlawful passion), even as the Gentiles whichknow not God: 6That no man go beyond and defraud his brother in any matter: becausethat the Lord is the avenger of allsuch, as we also have forewarned you and testified. 7For God hath not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness. 8He therefore thatdespiseth,despisethnotman,butGod,whohathalsogivenuntoushis holySpirit."
NaturalImmunity? Some men say that the display of bare feminine flesh "doesn't affect" them.Onehastowonder:
are these men eunuchs who accidentally married women?
Are these men claiming immunity to feminine sexual arousal because they have homosexual tendencies?
Are these men admitting that they have become desensitised to sexual sins - sexual immorality – because of their repeated exposure to porn?
Are they saying that their participation in mental harlotry doesn't effect their sexual relationship and loyalty to their wife?
Are they saying that they can go home and have a loving, sexual relationship with their wives after enjoying the viewing of these women's bodies and it not be a problem - to them?
Are they meaning that "it's okay to look, but not to touch?" Jesus said it was not even okay to think about how sexually-arousing these women are!
I believe the truth of the matter is that the first time a sin is committed it shocks our conscience, but as the sin is repeated and accepted as “normal” the shock is gradually eliminated.
1 Timothy 4:2 “Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron.”
Familiarity with sexual scenes outside marriage causes a gradual de-sensitivity to the horror and evil of the sin of sexual immorality. This de-sensitivity is the reason why some men claim that exposure to a scantily clad or form-fitted woman “doesn't affect me.” Such a seared and useless conscience needs the help of the spirit of God to recreate it into a new, functioning conscience that can raise the alarm when danger of sexual immorality is near. “How can a man “guard well the avenues of the soul” if the protective walls of his conscience have been broken down? Christian women could assist these men to rebuild the walls of their conscience by dressing modestly and unselfishly.
Job made a promise to himself before God that he would "turn away his eye from looking at a maiden."
Job 31:1 “I made a covenant with mine eyes; why then should I think upon a maid? “ David learned the "look away" lesson the hard way with Bathsheba.
Psalm 101:3 “I will set no wicked thing before mine eyes: I hate the work of them that turn aside; it shall not cleave to me.“
TheWifeofYourYouth Where should a married man focus ALL his sexual attention? With whom should ALL of the husband's sexual needs be met?
Proverbs 5:18-20 Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. 19 Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love. 20 And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?”
How sad that the vast majority of men seemed to enjoy the sinful view silently - lingering with their eyes on these women's bodies. How does God consider this sinful behaviour?
Malachi 2:15 “And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.
Treachery? Treachery is a betrayal of trust or faith.
The unlawful acceptance of visual and mental sexual immorality reveals the lie of many husband's professed Christianity. (After all, they say, "It's not my fault she is wearing a revealing dress"). Of course it's not his fault that a harlot is parading her body to excite lust in every man. Certainly it is the harlot's fault that she is deliberately attempting to demand his sexual attention; but it is the husband's fault if he fails in his responsibility to turn his eyes andmind away from the harlot's body.
It is the husband's responsibility to mentally determine to show honour and loyalty to his wife. It is his responsibility to show that his desire is solely for his wife's body, and that any and every Jezebellian threat is not going to take his loyalty and desire away from his wife.
It is the husband’s privilege to offer his wife the security of his love, by giving his physical affection to her, at the time of the Jezebellian threat. Naturally, he does not touch his wife intimately in public, but he might hold his wife's hand and reassure her that she is far more beautiful to him than any other woman on the face of the earth. Any strange woman who is hoping to steal the husband’s attention is usually disappointed and deterred by a show of loyalty of the husband to his wife.
When a husband understands that in reality, lust is just another form of sexual abuse and that he becomes a sexual abuser when he participates, it can be very sobering. Sexual fantasy is really a rape through the eyes. Does he want to rape someone who Jesus declares is his neighbour? Would he like to be treated in the same way that he is secretly treating his female neighbours? Would he like to parade naked in their minds and be judged on his sexual attractiveness or lack of it? This could be a lesson that Solomon was slow to learn.
It might be difficult for women to understand why men are obsessed with ‘looking.’ Men have culturally been conditioned by their environment that it is normal, male behaviour to enjoy looking at sexually provocative women. They are groomed to develop an attitude of entitlement. They assume they are entitled to evaluate the porn that is presented to them on a daily basis– ie the porn that walks past them in the street, in supermarkets, in magazines, at the beach, on TV, in posters, in movies AND in church. Hypersexualisation is the result of watching and accepting porn. It causes sexual frustration that is disguised as high libido. Hpersexualisation is in plague proportions due to a deliberate attack on masculinity.
How would a man respond to the question that his wife might ask, “Would you be okay if I looked (ie. with sexual arousal) at the young, hot guys, the same way that you look at the young, hot babes?” The wife might be shocked if she truly realised what thoughts her hypersexualised husband was actually thinking when he ‘innocently’ just ‘looks’ at a ‘beautiful woman.’
While women might be confused about the male obsession with looking, it is probably just as puzzling for men to wonder why women spend so much time and money obsessing on how to attract male sexual attention. After all men are not culturally conditioned to spend a fortune on make-up, hair care, clothing, or to have 30 pairs of shoes etc. Men are not pressured by constant evaluation by their peers or women, based primarily on their appearance. Males are evaluated by selfish, materialistic, narcissistic women on their income-earning potential. Women will dress up or down in an effort to seek male attention. They have been groomed to become the ‘product or commodity’ sold by the SAI, while the men are the consumers/customer of that product.
Fake ‘sex’ becomes a commodity, disguised as a sport or entertainment. It is actually sexual abuse ie an abuse of the sex organs and the mind. Many young people who were exposed to porn as children report being shocked when first confronted by it and that they experienced a tremendous adrenaline reaction. Their sexual arousal became anchored to adrenaline. This reaction is not a normal sexual response, but a response to trauma. True human sexuality is motivated by Love. True sex arousal is a desire to share physical intimacy with the permanent partner where emotional intimacy already exists in the relationship. The relationship is mutually respectful, sexually exclusive and precious to both partners.
If a man (or woman) desperately wants to be pure in his heart and in his mind, but willpower has proven to be not sufficient, do not despair. It is most likely that such a person has become hypersexualised.
When a person becomes hypersexualised, sexual abuse activity dominates their thinking and may cause compulsive sexually abusive behaviour (sex outside of a loving, committed relationship). Hypersexualised individuals demonstrate almost constant sexual stress that causes compulsive desires to engage abnormally frequently in sexual activity ie many times every day and night, occupying many hours. The sexual activity is not motivated by loving concern and a desire to join with a partner, but the drive is to ‘get rid of the urge.’ There are many stressful ‘triggers’ that stimulate a desire to ‘get rid of the urge’ and some are boredom, anxiety, depression, arguments, escape from stressful situations/relationships. Trying to ‘quit’ porn or abusive sexual behaviour results in the person experiencing withdrawal symptoms. Many so-called ‘sex porn addicts’ attempt quitting porn/prostitutes, only to fail because they do not know how to endure the compulsive urges to masturbate and other physical discomforts of withdrawal. Mentally, the ‘addicts’ also have no ‘fall-back’ optional stress reliever. Many ‘addicts’ do not realise that they are actually experiencing temporary withdrawal symptoms. Instead they believe they are suffering from a ‘high libido’ and that this is a curse they must suffer the rest of their life. Addicts need the knowledge that, if withdrawal is done correctly, the imbalance of neurotransmitters will be reset which brings relief from the physical problems and cravings/compulsions. New neural pathways will form in the brain and quite soon, the ‘addict’ will be free from the sexual abuse obsession that they now despise.
Signs of a Hypersexualised Man
A typical sign of a man being hypersexualised is that he is emotionally absent and the wife cannot connect with him emotionally intimately. His mind is slow and he does very little productive work. He makes himself absent from her emotionally and might elect to spend time just ‘sitting’ absorbed in his own thoughts. He often gets up in the middle of the night, or ‘works’ late at his computer, so he can address his sexual stress by masturbating to porn. Many times these night time escapades occupy many hours as one ‘movie’ in not sufficient and multiply scenes are necessary to be viewed before finally, relief is achieved. The relief is not satisfactory though as the chemicals/neurotransmitters, especially dopamine, are no longer able to activate the receptors in his brain. An overload of dopamine is what causes the ‘hit’ he is seeking, but an overload of dopamine is very dangerous so the brain culls many of the receptors. This loss of dopamine activation is frustrating for the porn ‘addict’ and he is driven to look for ‘stronger’ or more intense porn in an effort to experience the same ‘hit.’ The brain changes are not only noticeable to his wife, but also to others in his social circle who notice that the man becomes slower and that he is ‘somewhere else’ when she tries to connect with him. The ‘great divide’ emotionally really begins to bother her and she begins to analyse their relationship with a degree of suspicion as to her husband’s fidelity/loyalty to her. She might ask him if he still loves her, or as the symptoms worsen, if he is involved with someone else, or if he’s ‘doing porn’ (Obsessive internet porn use is cited as being stated as a major reason in 56%- 60% of divorce cases https://verilymag.com/2017/07/causes-of-divorce-effects-of-watching-pornography#:~:text=In%20an%20informal%20meeting%20survey,than%20half%20of%20such%20cases ).
A hypersexualised husband might work in a place where he has female co-workers. If so, there is a very good chance that he will experience being visually raped with images of scantily-clad women – none of whom are personally interested in satisfying the urges they create in his body and mind. Because of their own insecurities, many women are driven to seek a dopamine ‘power-hit’ from men. When a woman dresses provocatively, she is sending an invitation of foreplay to a man. When the man responds to her invitation with a stare of admiration, or with a compliment of approval, the woman collects her dopamin ‘hit.’ Dopamine is released in her brain and she feels good. She has no intention of completing the sexual activity that she began with the man and certainly no concern for how his sexual arousal effects him or his relationship with his wife. In addition to other female co-workers, the man likely encounters posters, magazines, sexualised advertisements popping up on his computer screen, sexual conversations, flirtatious remarks and perhaps even surfing the lingerie adverts and watching porn on a work computer. He might also research the prostitution adverts. All such activities are commonly reported by ‘porn/sex addicts’ and all the experiences can combine to captivate the man’s mind and stimulate his body sexually.
By the time the man arrives home at the end of the day, he is more than ready to ‘get relief.’ He is driven. He needs to use his wife’s body to get rid of his pent-up frustration. He might prelude his request for ‘sex’ by giving his wife a bunch of flowers or some chocolate before he begins his sexual request. His aim is to persuade his wife to cooperate – to ‘get her in the mood’ for sexual interaction with him. Because of his usual behaviour of emotionally disconnecting with her, is wife will likely be alert especially if the man has not been paying her special attention for some time. She understands that her husband has become very aroused, but she also knows that it was not her who aroused him. She also knows that his acute arousal is not because he is in love with her and wants to join with her sexually because of his chronic lack of attention to her apart from sexual requests. The wife might give her husband the benefit of the doubt and wait to see if he provides any evidence of his professed love for her in the form of intimate conversation after their sexual interaction. However, her hypersexualised husband most likely, has too much emotional baggage and secrets that he is hiding from his wife and he simply can’t fake his interest in her as a whole person. He can’t be honest with her and confide that he has been sexually disloyal to her for years – in his mind at least. Sex for him is that he wants to use her female body parts and then go back to being distant form her – emotionally disconnected. He needs to imagine that the body he is sexually penetrating, is that of the co-worker or porn performer or else he can’t perform at all with his wife. If the wife agrees to let her husband ‘use her body’ she might well hold resentment against him for doing so, and she also might become more suspicious about who is the real originator of her husband’s increased sexual demands. Is he having an affair? Is he watching porn? Is she in danger of losing her husband to another woman at work? The sexual activity she just engaged in with her husband does not provide the natural release of oxytocin and vassopressin, but instead it is driven by adrenaline/fear. The lack of bonding chemicals does not emotionally bond the two partners together regardless of the climaxes achieved.
Signs of a Hypersexualised Woman
Women are not generally hypersexualised physically to the same degree as are men, but that might only be because they are not targeted by the media (SAI) in the same way that men are targeted. Traditionally men have been the main income earners and therefore they made the obvious customers to the SAI. Now that women are also earning independent income, the SAI have targeted women also and we see the rates of physical hypersexualisation in women on the rise and evidence is being gathered that increasing numbers of porn-addicted women are now demonstrating compulsive sexual behaviour such as frequent sexual activity with many partners.
In this section we are referring to the other aspect that drives hypersexualisation of women . It originates again with the media (SAI) and takes advantage of the emotional injuries that women often receive as children. This emphasis on emotional affect, contrasts with the focus on men who display hypersexualisation in compulsive/compelling behaviour that prompts men to find physical, sexual 'relief' but more often women demonstrate that they are engaging sexually in an attempt to fill emotional needs.
Women in pornified cultures seem to be raised with the eternal question, “Am I good enough?” Society screams every moment to women that the value of any female is based on how masterfully she can sexually arouse men. It doesn’t matter if the woman is the Prime Minister of Australia, the Chancellor of Germany, the Prime Minister of the UK – no woman is exempt from being evaluated on her outward appearance. Ugliness, unattractiveness, out of fashion clothing, the overweight, the grey hair and being older – all these are regular comments in the media regarding highly qualified, highly performing women in powerful positions. The women’s capabilities and skills are not the focus of the headlines – typically, the focus is evaluating the women’s physical appearance. Strangely, narcissistic, sociopathic, psychopathic, criminally convicted women seem to be adored by men - as long as their selfish minds are housed in beautiful bodies. This ‘beauty’ evaluation scale is real and it causes painful insecurities even in very young girls.
A woman who was raised from childhood in a stable, loving and functional family, does not need to seek outside opinions about her personal value. She knows that she has value that is not based on temporary characteristics. She is loved for who she is by her family and that is insurance against doubting her worth in a pornified society. Sadly, many girls are not raised in loving families and they develop attachment injuries (just as boys do). Because of their emotional insecurities (based on their value in society) many women are driven to seek validation of their worth from others in a form of co-dependence. “Tell me I’m worth something please!” But society screams back from movies, posters, TV, fashion magazines etc that she is not valued as she simply is ‘too fat, too ugly, too old etc.” However, if the woman applies mountains of make-up, diets until she is groaning with hunger and removes some of her clothing, showing her body in a sexually appealing way, suddenly she receives a response that she is ‘beautiful.’ She receives a massive dopamine a dopamine ‘power-hit’ from any man who shows his approval.
When a woman dresses provocatively, she is sending an invitation to engage in foreplay. When the man responds with a stare of admiration, or with a compliment of approval, the woman collects her ‘wage.’ A dopamine ‘hit.’ Dopamine is released in her brain and she feels good. She graduated receiving her ‘certificate of value’ for that moment.
Regarding the men who responded to her sexual display, the woman has no intention of completing the sexual activity that she began with them. She has no concern about how his sexual arousal in response to her body, effects him or his relationship with his wife. It was a quick, easy use of a man and the woman will repeat the appeal process each public moment of her life – or she will pay the consequences of being rejected and firmly told that she is ‘not good enough.’ The more clothing she removes, the more desperate is her cry for approval, but tragically, the more vulnerable she becomes to abuse by those she is seeking to impress with her beauty. Porn performers, prostitutes/strippers receive horrendous abuse from pimps/clients often, including being trafficked, injured and killed.
Hypersexuality often begins with a thought - curiosity. “I wonder what that women looks like under her clothing….” When not resisted, that one thought can lead to porn/sex ‘addiction’ and compulsive sexually abusive behaviour to both self and others. Tragic consequences can occur that are not even conceived during that first curious thought.
Be encouraged because freedom from so called ‘porn addiction’ and sexual compulsion is achievable for anyone. Rehabilitation without compulsive urges has been achieved by many former ‘addicts.’ Understanding the chemistry of sex and addiction, the neural pathways formed in the brain and how the neurotransmitter imbalances causes hypersexuality is the first step in becoming free. Knowing the timetable of the withdrawal process such as when to anticipate symptoms, is empowering in recovery. Knowing that a person suffering from hypersexualisation is not bad, evil, wicked, shameful etc is also freeing. Knowing the the hypersexualised person has been used as a puppet by the Sexual Abuse Industries (SAI) for commercial gain. Jesus said that ‘the Truth will set you free and you shall be free indeed.’ Totally free. For information on how to break free, visit www.MindRewind.vip for free, anonymous, Christian assistance and support. No blame, no shame, no judgement. Totally free. Volunteer workers. Not 12 Step. Phone or email contact.
PureinHeart True Christians understand that harlotry doesn't bring spiritual, mental or emotional satisfaction.
And the fleeting sexual “satisfaction” that harlotry provides, is unable to compete with the pure, long- lasting sexual experience shared between a married couple. A truly Christian marriage provide for good sexual experiences in a sanctified and safe environment.
Harlotry – unlawful sexual experiences, whether in the body or only in the mind of the voyeur/exhibitionist, is a an expensive, harmful and crude imitation of sanctified sex.
A Christian husband who chooses to let the spirit of Christ direct his sexual decisions, will not covet the body (flesh) of a woman who is not also joined to him intimately emotionally - his permanent, loving partner.
A Christian wife who chooses to let the spirit of Christ direct her sexual decisions, will not engage in promiscuous visual foreplay.
A Christian married couple will keep their sexual behaviour private, protected from prying eyes and valued as a sacred blessing between only themselves.
God has exposed the sin of harlotry, and in the place of that cheap counterfeit, has made provision for His people to enjoy sanctified, pure, sexual pleasure in a loving, private, dignified and Christian manner in marriage.
Isaiah 66:18 “For I know their works and their thoughts:..”
For those who understand the truth about the holy spirit of the One True God will also understand that the battle is fought and won by the Spirit of Christ in the human mind.
Philippians 2:5 “Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus.”
1 Corinthians 2:16 “For who hath known the mind of the Lord, that he may instruct him? But we have the mind of Christ.“
Romans 8:8-10 “So then they that are in the flesh cannot please God. 9 But ye are not in the flesh, but in the Spirit, if so be that the Spirit of God dwell in you. Now if any man have not the Spirit of Christ, he is none of his. 10 And if Christ be in you, the body is dead because of sin; but the Spirit is life because of righteousness.”
HarlotryandWhoremongering The SAI has a programme to make money from the pain of humanity – a porn obsessed, addicted society. The Creator has repeatedly tried to protect humanity from suffering the pain of a broken heart and impotence. He said in Exodus 20:14, “Thou shalt not commit adultery,” but humans don’t believe His warnings. How could sexual activity be so bad? After all, it’s natural!
Most religions have rules regarding sexual activity; some restrict sexual activity by imposing celibacy, while others promote orgies. The ancient Israelites continued to practice supposedly ‘free sex’ in their apostasies, and as a result they were almost constantly under divine rebuke. Sexual immorality was part of the organised and regular (pagan) church services that took place in groves and in the high places of apostate Israel.
Jeremiah 13:25-27 “This is thy lot, the portion of thy measures from me, saith the LORD; because thou hast forgotten me, and trusted in falsehood. 26 Therefore will I discover thy skirts upon thy face, that thy shame may appear. 27 I have seen thine adulteries, and thy neighings, the lewdness of thy whoredom, and thine abominations on the hills in the fields. Woe unto thee, O Jerusalem! wilt thou not be made clean? when shall it once be? “
God points out that it is a shame to be naked and exposed to public view, but many men and women in the churches have become extremely confused on this point. Some women are proud of their nakedness and willingly parade it in the churches for all to see. It is a shame. And foolish men admire the display of harlotry and even encourage them by their not turning away their gaze, and their lack of protest against the inappropriate attire.
God puts value on the development of an unselfish character, but Satan has managed to convince the churches that his selfish counterfeit – superficial appearance - is what makes a woman truly valuable. And the “Christian” men lap up the fleshly lusts on display. This practice, if continued will result in a “seared conscience” (1Timothy 4:2) and eventually in grieving the spirit of God.
Jesus asked the question in Luke 6:46, “And why call ye me, Lord, Lord, and do not the things which I say?
The professed people of God who practice sexual sins are in fact, not obeying Christ. They are breaking the commandments of God. God is Love, while adultery is the absence of Love. Selfishness is extremely addictive. Love gives of Himself to demonstrate His care for others. Lust takes from others and demonstrates lack of care for them.
As in the time of ancient Israel, why, are His professed followers today, still calling Him their Lord, when they too are deliberately committing adultery, harlotry and whoremongery with their dress, thoughts and actions? In fact, these sins constitute pagan idolatry. Through unlawful sexual thoughts, Self is being hoisted up for worship in the place where only God should occupy – the citadel of the mind.
Loveisgiving - unselfish–divineinorigin. Lust is taking - selfish – demonic in origin – the absence of Love.
Repentance Isaiah 1:18 “Come now, and let us reason together, saith the LORD: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool.“
Isaiah 55:7 “Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the LORD, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.“
1 John 1:9 “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”
Victory Ephesians 6:12 “For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.”
Victory over the sin of sexual immorality is achievable by learning the truth which will set the mind again free to control the body.
1. Submitting the mind to God's central truth - that Love gives and does not abuse others; 2. Becoming educated about the beauty of true sexuality; the chemistry of sex, the chemistry of sexual abuse and its effects on the brain, the imbalance of neurotransmitters; 3. Working with the body as it repairs through the temporary withdrawal process while neurotransmitters rebalance and new neural pathways are laid down in the brain.
James 4:7 “Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.”
Christians can avail themselves of a Divine Power (Christ) that the world cannot possess without conversion. When the Christian struggles to resist the pressure of his/her lustful inclinations, the promise is given that God will provide divine power toresist the temptation. The Christian chooses to deny the sinful pleasures of the flesh and immediately turns by faith, and in faith, to Christ for that strength.
1 John 5:4 “For whatsoever is born of God overcometh the world: and this is the victory that overcometh the world, even our faith. “
Galatians 5:16 “This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.”
1 John 5:18 “We know that whosoever is born of God sinneth not; but he that is begotten of God keepeth himself, and that wicked one toucheth him not.”
Romans 8: 38, 39 “For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, 39 Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
OnGuard How many truly Christian men are upset by being visually raped? How many are silently offended by being forced to view harlotry in the churches?
There are some men who are truly moral giants, but they appear to be rare heroes. The Sexual Abuse Industries design and plot to infect men’s minds, and women’s minds with a perverted, abusive concept of what constitutes normal sexuality. Training to be a puppet of pornified society begins before birth. Female babies are displayed in ‘beauty contests’ and boys are taught not to express emotions, laying the foundation for intimacy disorders. Sex is very early introduced as a sport, entertainment completely separated or motivated by love. Sex is anchored by shock of seeing porn, to a solo sport (voyeur/porn) or a partnered sport (prostitutes/strip clubs).
How can a man "guard the avenues of his soul" and keep his sexual thoughts “only unto his wife.” He can develop a new mind. He, like the apostle Paul, can learn to hate the things he used to love and love the things he used to despise.
Romans 7:15, 24 “I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do, I do not do. But what I hate, I do. What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body of death? 25Thanks be to God, through Jesus Christ our Lord!”
Just as a nicotine addict can be free from the compulsion to smoke and develop a hatred of cigarette smoke, so too can hypersexualised addicts become free and hate the chains that once bound them. Men and women can’t be free from hypersexualisation if they hate the people who caused them to practice their abusive behaviours. Love is the healing power. Love empowers humanity to hate selfishness, in ourselves and others, but to have pity for those victims still caught in harmful behaviours.
The Bible has some advice.
Deuteronomy 8:3 “...man doth not live by bread only, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of the LORD doth man live.”
Psalm 119:9 “Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his way? by taking heed thereto according to thy word.”
Should men place themselves in places voluntarily where they will be tantalised with sexual temptations?
Proverbs 5:3, 4, 8-11 "The lips of a strange woman drop as an honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil: but her end is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword.... Remove thy way farfrom her, and come not nigh the door of her house: lest thou give thine honor unto others, and thy years unto the cruel: lest strangers be filled with thy wealth; and thy labors be in the house of a stranger; and thou mourn at the last, when thy flesh and thy body are consumed." .
Proverbs 2:18, 19. "Her house inclineth unto death None that go unto her return again."
Proverbs 9:18. "Her guests are in the depths of hell."
The harlot-women can be extremely attractive, but there is a hidden death involved. Harlotry leads to death.
Beware Especially of the Narcissist
Some women (and some men) are narcissistic. They can be and are members of Christian churches. They use their body in a sexual way to gain rewards for themselves by manipulating their victims. The manipulation is so well rehearsed that the pure toxic effect is undetected until it is too late. The victim often loses a lot of funds and very often, they also lose their self-esteem and sense of reality. Gas-lighting, disrespectful criticism, put-downs, even physical assaults are common weapons used by the narcissist that are so hurtful that the victim can contemplate suicide. Narcissistic people are dangerous because their intent is to abuse through manipulation. They display a chronic lack of empathy. The most helpful advice that seems to be given for a person traumatised by being in a relationship with a narcissist is to turn away - run away. Certainly pray for them, but pray from a safe, no-contact distance.
Freedom From Compulsion Church-women of harlotry present a strong temptation to true Christian men who really want to live for Christ and win the battle over the fleshly lusts, but Christ has provided a way of escape.
Psalm 18:3 “I will call upon the LORD, who is worthy to be praised: so shall I be saved from mine enemies.“
Psalm 143:9 “Deliver me, O LORD, from mine enemies: I flee unto thee to hide me.“
If a man is faced unexpectedly with “an eyeful” of feminine flesh, He can ask the Lord to deliver him, but when the hypersexuality is corrected and the neurotransmitters are again balanced, there will be no struggle. For example, if someone offers a non-smoker a cigarette, it is no struggle to politely refuse the cigarette. There is no ‘pull’ or desire for the cigarette. In the same way, the desire to look at a woman to lust after her body, or to look out of curiosity, will have little pull on a man whose mind is free from the contamination of porn.
DamageControl A church-woman may appear very beautiful outwardly, but if she chooses to wear the attire of a harlot, she is inwardly (spiritually) “red-lining.” She needs guidance and assistance to understand that her dress-style is really part of a satanic strategy by which she is used to entice others to practice selfishness. Men might admire her body, but they might just as well be uninterested in her as a whole person.
A church-man might be outwardly admirable, but if he is secretly enjoying visually feeding of the lusts of his flesh, which is aroused by harlot-women, then in reality, he is not a Christian.
Both harlot-women and morally-challenged men need the prayers of God's true people to bring them to repentance. Our battle is not against the women or the men who are enslaved in these habits. We are to love our fellowman and women, even though their sins cause us injury. But loving our enemies, or those who injury us, is only part of the Biblical instruction applicable to this situation.
Leviticus 19:17 (Bible in Basic English version) “Let there be no hate in your heart for your brother; but you may make a protest to your neighbour, so that he may be stopped from doing evil.”
Galatians 6:1 “Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted.”
Matthew 18:15-17 “Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother. 16 But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established. 17 And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as a heathen man and a publican.”
Conclusion John 8:3-11 “And the scribes and Pharisees brought unto him a woman taken in adultery; and when they had set her in the midst, 4 They say unto him, Master, this woman was taken in adultery, in the very act. 5 Now Moses in the law commanded us, that such should be stoned: but what sayest thou? 6 This they said, tempting him, that they might have to accuse him. But Jesus stooped down, and with his finger wrote on the ground, as though he heard them not. 7 So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her. 8 And again he stooped down, and wrote on the ground. 9 And they which heard it, being convicted by their own conscience, went out one by one, beginning at the eldest, even unto the last: and Jesus was left alone, and the woman standing in the midst. 10 When Jesus had lifted up himself, and saw none but the woman, he said unto her, Woman, where are those thine accusers? hath no man condemned thee? 11 She said, No man, Lord. And Jesus said unto her, NeitherdoI condemn thee: go, and sinno more.”
God will help us all to obey that command too, if we are willing to submit our fleshly desires to Him.
Christ has made full provision for our obedience to be possible.
Romans 8:2, 3 “For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death. 3 For what the law could not do, in that it was weak through the flesh, God sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh, and for sin, condemned sin in theflesh.“
Christ knew the full depth and strength of humanity's temptations - including the sexual temptations. He overcame all temptations and made divine power available to humanity to likewise resist all forms of temptations to sin. But the battle for men and women, takes place in the mind. To whom will each person submit their thoughts and fleshlydesires?
That’s where the battle is won or lost. The thinking has to become healthy, loving, thoughtful of others, caring for others, protective of others, meeting another’s needs.
Using another person must be seen as abhorrent as it truly is. It’s not natural.
Remember, the battle for which Christ and Satan are engaged is for possession of themind of humanity. Satan tempts humanity through the flesh to gain control of the mind. Only if the fleshly desires are not submitted to the control of the “mind of Christ,” can Satan gain control of the human mind.
Love gives - is unselfish – divine in origin
Lust takes - is selfish – demonic in origin - the absence of Love.
Proverbs 23:7 “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he.”
1 Timothy 1:7 “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of asoundmind.”
1 Corinthians 2:16 “For who hath known the mind of the Lord, that he may instruct him? But we have themindofChrist.”
Philippians 4:8 “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.”
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